Random Acts of Kindness From Family

November 25, 2015February 10, 2023 / Laura Lee Carter / Leave a comment

Ever since my parents health began to fail a few years ago, my sister Diane and her husband John have pulled most of the weight. My parents have stayed at their home in Denver for long periods of time when they needed special medical assistance. You see, Diane has an amazing network of friends and acquaintances in elder care.

My big sister just happens to be a national expert in elder and long-term care. She knows medicine and care giving! As my brother John quipped recently, “It’s like she’s been training her whole life for this job!” This past March my sister helped my parents move to Denver from rural New Mexico, no small job. Mike and I were in the midst of building our home here and needed to stick around. I so appreciate my sister for going so far beyond the call of duty in keeping my parents safe and happy. I told her so recently in a thank you note.

I have had some experience in care giving with a veteran husband who sometimes suffers from CFS, and a brother who also needs help at times. But John and Diane are the heroes in our family. This Thanksgiving I’m thankful for them!

Do you know a caregiver who could use a little help? Please go watch this short AARP video about their “Random Acts of Kindness for Caregivers” Campaign and then go see how you can lend a hand to a caregiver you know!

This is a sponsored post on behalf of Element Associates and Midlife Boulevard.

Passive Solar Heat & the First SNOW!

November 18, 2015November 20, 2015 / Laura Lee Carter / 2 Comments

Monday night was exciting up here! We saw first sleet and then snow falling, and it snowed all night.

As some of you may know, I’ve been recording precipitation data for the CoCoRAHS project since 1998, at the seven addresses I have lived at in that time. Yesterday’s reading was particularly difficult because of high winds and drifted snow, although I did record almost an inch of precip!

Let me put it this way, it was difficult getting out of the house on Tuesday morning. Some places there was almost no snow and it was a foot deep elsewhere. We live on a county road so they took care of the road plowing.

And our solar heating has been working great! For example, outside we got down to around 20 degrees last night and inside we were around 60 this morning, but as soon as the sun started coming in, we jumped up to 66 quickly. We do have supplemental electric heat, which we use sparingly, and I also have hot flashes, which help a lot!

The sunset was beautiful here last night, a constant reminder of why we choose to live up here!

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Boomers Share Their Lives & Thoughts

November 15, 2015November 16, 2015 / Laura Lee Carter / 4 Comments

The devastating murders in Paris this week are an important reminder to all of us exactly how fragile our lives can be. Anything can happen to any of us at any time.

In my forties, my midlife crisis manifested as regrets for the lack of one crucial life experience. I fully acknowledged my mortality, and found that I would be quite disappointed with my life if I never found true love. I chose to focus all of my energy on believing in love again. I believed what you focus on grows, and in my case it did!

Finding the love of my life in 2005 led to me finally finding right livelihood. All of my dreams started coming true with the endless love and support of Mike.

Mike is a Vietnam era veteran. He was not honored when he came home. He was shamed. But today I care for him and honor him everyday for the sacrifices he made in service to our country.

Another blogger in our group, Linda Myers loves and cares for a Vietnam vet. This week she accompanied her husband to the monthly meeting of a chapter of the Daughters of the American Revolution. He was their speaker.

On The Survive and Thrive Boomer Guide, Rita R. Robison, consumer journalist, writes about tips for veterans to avoid signing up for “for-profit” schools that charge veterans high tuition for courses that are worthless in getting them jobs. Many of these colleges aggressively target veterans.

Meryl Baer of Six Decades and Counting had a new birth to announce this week in her family! She and her hub welcomed a new addition to their family, grand baby number 5 entered the world. Of course she is the cutest baby ever. See for yourself over at Welcome New Baby Baer.

Tom over at Sightings Over Sixty has a simple little problem for you to solve today. Is it as easy as it looks, or is there a trick to it? Teleport your way over to Think About It and see if you know the answer.

We boomers are surviving and thriving by living life with no regrets!

Rebellion at age 60

November 12, 2015October 11, 2016 / Laura Lee Carter / 5 Comments

Rebellion is difficult, freedom priceless!

It only occurred to me recently that I am going through at age 60, what most went through in their teenage years. I would say I have always been a good girl, to some extent, doing what was expected of me. Two husbands and three graduate degrees later, it seems I have changed.

When Mike and I hatched the plan in late 2013, of selling our lovely home in Fort Collins (suburbia), to build a passive solar home in rural Huerfano county, I had no idea how much my family didn’t want us to do this. I guess I figured it was our business, but apparently not.

Come to find out, I have somehow betrayed my family by making my own decision. This has brought up a lot of other types of rebellion for me, rebellion I never felt at age 18 or 19. I feel angry that I have always done what was expected of me instead of what I wanted to do.

I know, better late than never…

I now recognize so many old tapes in my head, telling me what to do and how to act. These go against my own needs and desires, and yet it seems strange to be finally telling them to shut up.

This is where my own inner wisdom comes in. I now have six decades of wisdom stored up from just living my life day-to-day. I know myself very well.

I finally believe in my own wisdom. I know how I wish to live. I only wish my family had more faith in my judgment.

Want to learn more about my mammoth move from suburbia to rural southern Colorado? Go see here!

Life in a passive solar home

November 5, 2015September 6, 2016 / Laura Lee Carter / 7 Comments

This post is for those who are curious what it is like to live in a direct gain passive solar home. That included me until a few months ago!

For example, today the sun is out, but we had a high of 46 degrees outside. Inside we are toasty warm in the low 70s with no forms of heat needed.

To build a direct gain solar home you must first properly position it with almost all your windows and sliding doors facing directly south. And the windows and doors must be made of the proper kind of glass.

In addition, your roof needs just the right amount of overhang on the south side to keep the sun overhead and not shining into the house until around September 1st.

You must also start out with the right kind of insulated slab to hold the heat in the floor, instead of it leaking out into the ground. This is essential!

The walls must be well insulated, and then we chose dark gray tile throughout the house to absorb the heat as it enters the house from our south-facing doors and windows. Right now the sun is shining about 10 feet into our home!

You also need ceiling fans if you want to keep the heat down off the ceiling in winter.

At the time of building this house, I understood why we made these specific choices, but only now do I see the great advantages to living in a home that holds its temperature so well.

Yes, our home does cool down at night, but very slowly. The low temperature outside last night was around 20 degrees. With no inside heat on, the outdoors got down to 64 degrees. Then as the sun starts coming in to the house the morning, our home warms up very quickly.

Sometimes before I leave the house I think, “Should I turn down the thermostat?” But we have none…old ways die hard.

Fortunately we were able to find the perfect passive solar perch for our new home, one that faces south and also offers us a 180 degree view of the Spanish Peaks and the Sangre de Cristo mountain range.

Now that I understand all of this, I am mystified why everyone doesn’t use the free solar heat of winter! Of course I never would have understood all of this without Mike’s expertise and education.

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Midlife change is so worth it!

November 4, 2015November 18, 2015 / Laura Lee Carter / 2 Comments

Although Mike and I did consider ending it all before we met in lucky 2005 (see previous post), we both agree joining forces has been the BEST thing that has ever happened to either of us!

Together, through a great love and stubborn persistence, we have assisted each other in attaining our most treasured life goals, goals we would not have attained without each other’s support.

Mine was to become a writer. So far I’ve written three books! Mike’s was to build his own passive solar home with a spectacular view.

Mission Accomplished! And, BTW, the passive solar is keeping us toasty warm this fall! More often than not we have to open a window to cool down our home. So far, so good. We have only needed to use our supplemental heaters on the coldest and cloudest days.

The sunrises up here are GLORIOUS!

And all in all, I would say we are a good example of:

“Don’t give up in midlife when things feel hopeless!”

Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. If you can change your mind and change your priorities like I did, there are do-overs before it’s all over! That is the message of my books and blogs.

And, finally, the rat is dead! Mike found it in his car and killed it! He was so happy! We still have our new cat Charlie. He’s not so good with rats, but he’s great at finding bugs, and re-defines playfulness for us!

Rasta and Charlie are still not the best of friends, but we’re getting there…

still coloring mandalas, and LOVING IT! It’s so healing for my poor recovering brain…

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