I Still Can’t Believe I Live Here….

Walsenburg city limits signThe culture-shock continues at this end. I remember daily my surprise when we first moved here from busy, expensive Fort Collins last summer. Walsenburg is very small, quiet and poor. Back then, every time I went out to my car to go somewhere I would think, “Where the hell am I?” Ours was a move from one of the richest cities in Colorado to the absolute poorest. Yes, this was a challenge to the way I saw myself.

About once a month we would go eat breakfast at the local greasy spoon, that cafe that has been on Main Street for a hundred years. Phyllis, the owner, cook, and waitress would always ask, “Where are you from?” We would always answer, “Here.” It took her a few months to accept the fact that we would be coming back monthly.

Last time I was there, I asked her to sit down for a minute and tell me about Walsenburg. She said it used to be a nice little town, back when there were still some good jobs left. She said downtown was buzzing back then, but since the mid-1980s it’s been going downhill. Now some believe the influx of people and dollars for cultivating marijuana will save the town. She’s not so sure, but hopes for the best.

Now, after one of the most stressful years of my life because of the major challenges of moving into a very old house in a sad little town, and then completing a home in the foothills west of here, I again feel culture shock.

After a lifetime of living mostly single, extensive world travel, constant change, and relentless uncertainty, I live now in an amazingly peaceful place with my loving husband and great puppy. Sometimes this feels like a dream. I’m staying at a quiet, beautiful mountain resort, and I begin to wonder when the management is going to kick me out!

How did this happen? How did I end up in the amazing place, feeling so happy and lucky? It’s a long story, one I would love to share with you!

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Only Love…

falling in love rocksWhile I’m talking about songs that are new to me since we headed south to retire, have you heard this marvelous song by Wynonna Judd yet? 

This is another one introduced to me by Bob our musical ex-landlord. When we first moved down here last summer his daughter was getting married, so he gave us a recording of all the songs he played at the wedding. What a great idea!

This song captures for me one of the greatest lessons of my life. It took me decades to decide that in the long run, love was the best reason to continue to exist.

Soon after that discovery back in 2004,a wonderful teacher appeared to teach me even more about loving another person well, heart and soul.

Mike is not a perfect person, but he does know how to love others, and I feel so honored that he chose me to love so completely. What luck!   Our love story could be any 49-year-old’s dream, which explains why ‘Falling in Love at 49’ on my previous blog “Midlife Crisis Queen” has been enjoyed by over 10,000 readers! Love is certainly lovelier the second time around!

  Yep, over ten years later I am even more convinced I hit the jackpot on this one! At least I did get it right here at the end!

You belong somewhere you feel free…

“You belong among the wildflowers. You belong in a boat out at sea.  Sail away, kill off the hours. You belong somewhere you feel free…”

Go listen to this song: Wildflowers by Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers 

Are you familiar with this song? I wasn’t until I moved to rural Colorado last summer, and our new landlord Bob put it on one his recordings for us. Since then it has become my mantra for choosing to leave suburbia behind forever and live in nature.

IMGP4000This is the first time in my entire life that I have felt truly free, and why not with a view like this out of my picture window?

IMGP4008It admit, it has taken me longer than I ever expected to adjust to life in and then outside of small town USA, but now I cannot even imagine going back to suburbia with all of that noise, pollution, traffic and high anxiety.

I didn’t even know how unhappy and anxious I was until I left it all behind.

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What have I been doing? Loving life in our new home in the foothills, whenever I can get out of my own way.

Compulsive behavior takes over for both Mike and I when we move into a new space. We have been overdoing it for the past few weeks, and it’s catching up with us!

IMGP3990That’s where the incredible beauty of this place comes in. Check out our sunset last night over the Spanish Peaks, a real attention-grabber!

IMGP3994Every time I look outside I am AMAZED at where I live.

But enough about me, what have the rest of my fellow bloggers been up to?

On The Survive and Thrive Boomer Guide, Rita R. Robison, consumer journalist, writes about an Ohio couple who weren’t allowed to have a natural lawn. The St. Albans Township threatened to send someone to mow the lawn accompanied by the police. The couple compromised and used a scythe to cut the height of their lawn down to 8 inches, hoping that would give them time to figure out some other solution. Robison, who’s written about “freedom lawns,” thinks its O.K. to let your lawn turn in to a meadow.

Tom Sightings invites you to see if you can figure out which ’60s icon he’s talking about … before the big reveal. Hint: He’d be the same age as Bob Dylan and Bernie Sanders. Go on over and try it out at Remember Me?

This week Meryl Baer of Six Decades and Counting visited the town she lived in for over 30 years and was pleasantly surprised. The city is experiencing a renaissance and reawakening, a previously neglected center city coming to life. Read her observations in Revisiting My Hometown. 

Here’s to having a great new week out there!

A New Week in a Spectacular New Home In The Southern Colorado Foothills!

So relieved to have our final move behind us!

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All I feel is gratitude for the many ways my life has changed since I decided to make love my highest priority back in 2004. I see now that if I hadn’t decided to find a way to believe in love again back then, none of my other goals could have been achieved.

First there was my fortuitous meeting with Mike in early 2005, which led to having the courage, time and energy to begin a new writing career. My books followed as Mike and I’s relationship grew.

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Then, when the time seemed exactly right, we decided to move out of the city forever and found this lovely valley to build in with 180 degree views of the Spanish Peaks and the Sangre de Cristos. But if Mike had not had the vision and the proper skills to create this home, it would have never been built.

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The peace and quiet, the chilly air in the morning as the sun comes up, this is heaven or close enough for me.

How did I end up here, feeling so fortunate?

It’s a long story, one I can now share with you!

An undeniable peace…

Our mountain retreat is a DREAM COME TRUE. We’re both completely exhausted, and yet quite pleased with the result of our two years of change, stress and labor…

The view from our bed through the sliding door:

IMGP3935You just have to love those resilient sunflowers!  

I see some serious cloud-watching in our future…