"As our inner life grows ever more luminous, the chatter of the speed-and-greed world slowly fades, leaving us with greater peace, tranquility, quiet and contentment.” — Arthur Rosenfeld
On the occasion of my Mom’s 83rd birthday, I would like to introduce you to my mother. Born around Kansas City after her mother had had trouble conceiving, my Mom ended up being the eldest of four children. She had her rebellious moments in high school and then met my Dad on a blind date in 1950. He was soon sent to Virginia by the army, but they corresponded for a short period and then they married in 1951. She was only 19 when she got on a train to join him.
She lived in a time when being your husband’s best help mate was what women did. She had kids while also helping her husband advance his career. It was such a struggle in their early lives together. Mom worked to support the family, and had three kids by 1955, while my father finished his PhD in botany at University of Iowa.
College teachers didn’t make much money back then, and they had to move every few years if they weren’t on tenure-track, so we moved around a lot in my early years, but my Mom always kept it together, even when my Dad decided he wanted to go to India for a summer when we kids were quite small. She was supportive of Dad no matter what! That is how she saw herself.
Eventually Mom started taking college classes and received a B.A. from Colorado College the year my eldest sister graduated from high school. Then she started teaching elementary school for the next 20 years. So many of her students remember her as a caring, encouraging teacher.
In the early 1990s my parents ‘retired’ to southern New Mexico, but they kept working hard to produce botany books all the same. My Mom got really good at Photoshop and photography to provide great photos for my Dad’s books. Has anybody heard of Trees and Shrubs of Colorado or Common Southwestern Native Plants? Those are a few of the books my parents produced together after ‘retirement.’
Now their lives have settled down quite a bit, but Mom still worries about all of us and our families. She has done a bang up job of helping others her whole life.
Helpmate. I like that concept. Coming from an agrarian background, I always saw men and women working together to produce food, prep, maintain and harvest fields. . My parents would be 101 and 102 in October. Treasure them and all they taught you.
An amazing woman, as are so many of our unsung heroes and heroines of everyday life. Except you are singing her song. Well done! (I used to have family in Iowa City, long ago, and my aunt who lived there was another Unsung Heroine.)
Unsung heroes is right! So many women gave up their dreams, or weren’t even able to have them, because they married and had kids, with no room for more in their lives…
An amazing woman, indeed. I wonder how many like her were out there over the years, helping their husbands succeed being their primary focus, but, in later years, being able to shine their own lights more. I’m happy you still have her to look up to.
Your mom is an amazing woman! I know you’re proud of her. I hope she’s proud of herself!
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EXCELLENT QUESTION! I try to encourage pride in her, but she is pretty critical, as many of that generation are….
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I loved reading what you wrote about your amazing mom, and the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. Thank you for this! xoxo
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Hey Eliza! How are you doing? So good to hear from you! Hope all is well in your life!
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What an incredible tribute. Thank you for sharing your mom’s story. Happy birthday to her!
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Thanks Andrea! I just wanted to call attention to what old-fashioned womanhood looked like…
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She would be an inspiration to anyone!
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I so agree! Hard-working and caring for others…
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What a wonderful person! You are so lucky to have your parents still in your life. Thank you for sharing your mom with me. 🙂
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Yes, I am so lucky to have my parents, and I know it!
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Helpmate. I like that concept. Coming from an agrarian background, I always saw men and women working together to produce food, prep, maintain and harvest fields. . My parents would be 101 and 102 in October. Treasure them and all they taught you.
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My Mom also came from agrarian roots in eastern Kansas…
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So nice to meet one of those heroes who stay in the background and change the world!
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An amazing woman, as are so many of our unsung heroes and heroines of everyday life. Except you are singing her song. Well done! (I used to have family in Iowa City, long ago, and my aunt who lived there was another Unsung Heroine.)
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Unsung heroes is right! So many women gave up their dreams, or weren’t even able to have them, because they married and had kids, with no room for more in their lives…
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She sounds like a wonderful woman and special Mom. How lucky you are to have her as your hero.
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What a great mom! And to be in the book business, well, I’m up for that! 🙂
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Yes, I’m sure their interests in writing and publishing influenced me, because I knew I could do the same!
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Hi, this is my first visit here and I am retired too. Your mom sounds like a neat lady, talented too.
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An amazing woman, indeed. I wonder how many like her were out there over the years, helping their husbands succeed being their primary focus, but, in later years, being able to shine their own lights more. I’m happy you still have her to look up to.
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