Midlife: Finding the courage to release what is familiar and seemingly secure…

“It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power.”   – Alan Cohen

This quote perfectly describes my life experience since my own midlife crisis at age 49, just like this great song, “Taking the Long Way!

When I lost my marriage, my job and my career, I finally confronted exactly how miserable I was with my life so far.         I knew I needed to release my familiar and embrace the new, but did I have that much courage?  Could I change in that many ways? It always helps when you feel like you have completely run out of options!

how-to-believe-in-love-again-between-tiny-and-blog-sizeFirst I started a small, local dating service, because I didn’t trust online dating. That eventually led to meeting my new husband Mike, online of course. He has been such an important factor in encouraging me to become fully me for the first time in my life. And I just realized yesterday exactly how free I feel living here in the middle of nowhere, depending on the sun for most of our heat, and Mike and our pets for love and support.

tell negative committee to shut upI never feel judged, and rarely even angry in my new life. I live my life as I like, and find my greatest critic comes from within. But I have gotten much better at telling it to “shut up!” It takes time, peace, and support to let go of the voices in your mind, and then move on to being present for the moment before you, the only one you have.

I am slowly relaxing into each moment as it arrives. What a wonderful way to live. I only wish I would have figured this one out sooner!

How did this happen? How did I end up here, feeling so fortunate?

It’s a long story, one I can now share with you!

Acceptance releases everything to be what it already is…

10 thoughts on “Midlife: Finding the courage to release what is familiar and seemingly secure…

  1. What I need to take away from this today for my own life is that it is what it already is. I don’t know if that makes sense but it makes so much sense to me. Thank you


  2. I love those two quotes at the beginning…they encapsulate my mid-life experience too and I’ve finally plucked up the courage to write a blog. I’ve told my story to a few but writing it down is something else…and very liberating. Thanks for sharing your post.


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