Springtime in the Rockies Boomer Blog Festival!

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The clouds on the Spanish Peaks, before the next snow…

I wanted to make this post a gigantic celebration of spring, but then it started snowing again. We have had a completely dry month and a half, so I’m glad we are finally getting some moisture to control the fire danger. And to tell the truth, I LOVE it when it snows here! There is probably no more peaceful place on earth when we are fogged in, and the snow gently falls.

I asked my fellow boomer bloggers to send me posts about their spring rituals. Interestingly, two decided to write about TAXES. This is a very sore subject around here. Did you know that all the money you spend on building a new home is seen as income? BUMMER! Now on top of the price of the house, we owe an arm and a leg in taxes!

Here are Tom and Meryl’s take on the subject:

income taxesSpring is not the carefree season Meryl Baer of Six Decades and Counting remembers as a child and teenager. Adult responsibilities intrude and must be heeded before the best season of the year can be enjoyed. Read about her pre-spring hurdle in A Rite of Spring.

Tom Sightings also has practical matters on his mind. In a post from his more innocent days he details 10 Lessons You Learn from Doing Your Taxes. But now he must make a confession. This year he fell victim to No. 10, and has hired an expert to blaze his path through the thicket of the federal tax return.

daffodil vaseIn the spring, Rita R. Robison, consumer journalist who blogs at The Survive and Thrive Boomer Guide, is inspired by the increased sunshine and the beautiful blossoms of spring. She plants an organic garden every year and enjoys the wonderful vegetables she produces. Robison was particularly inspired one year when she went to the Green Festival in Seattle and met Alice WatersAlice Waters, the owner of the Berkeley, California, restaurant Chez Panisse, which features locally sourced, organic food. Alice is a leader in the locally grown, organic food movement.

And finally, writer Carol Cassara asks: Are there things you’re doing that are just life clutter, joyless or stressful? Is it time to let them go? How about some spring cleaning for your mind! 

the human ear hearing lossI found I literally had too much stuff in my ears this week.   Here’s a hint: If you’re having new difficulties hearing as well as you used to, go get the extra wax out. It’s like a new lease on life, but I will never forget the sound of that vacuum cleaner for your ears! What a trip… apparently I had a record amount of wax!

Just had to add my favorite Easter cartoon:

Easter chocolate Bunny cartoon

 

Are you ‘playing it safe’?

One the most important lessons I learned from my own midlife crisis at age 49:      Playing it safe does not get you what you want in life! 

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“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the NEW.”   — Socrates

And this goes double for any retirement decisions you may be making right now. Taking the stay-where-you-are way may be a lot easier, but will it make your last dreams in life come true?

Learn more about this process and how you can start taking more risks today, over at my “How To Believe In Love Again” blog!

“Only those who risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.”  – T.S. Eliot

Where did Valentines Day come from?

Think naked Romans, paganism, and whips…

Way before Hallmark, Valentine’s Day, like Halloween, is rooted in pagan partying. This lovers’ holiday traces its roots to raucous annual Roman festivals where men stripped naked, grabbed goat or dog skin whips, and spanked young maidens in hopes of increasing their fertility, so says classics professor Noel Lenski at University of Colorado, Boulder.

The church pegged the festival to the legend of St. Valentine. The story goes that in the third century A.D., Roman Emperor Claudius II, seeking to bolster his army, forbade young men to marry. Valentine, flouted the ban, performing marriages in secret. For his defiance, Valentine was executed in A.D. 270—on February 14.

“In the end
these things matter most:
How well did you love?
How fully did you live?
How deeply did you let go?”
Gautama Buddha

Retired and missing your job?

Just heard on the news that most people don’t like their work. OK, perhaps that is no news flash for most, but as a retired person, I find that a bit sad. I immediately flash on a sign my Dad always had up in his office:

“I like my work, but it breaks up the day!”

I was raised by a man who LOVED his work. Silly me, as a kid I thought everybody did. Obviously work gave my Dad meaning and purpose. He was a botany professor who got to interact with college kids all day long. He loved teaching and counseling them. He was one of the few who reached his goal in life, and found it completely satisfying.

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Our view of the Sangre de Cristo range every morning!

As an academic librarian I always liked my work, but no, there was no love involved. I did it for 25 years. I was a dedicated employee who got there in spite of winter storms, etc. My main problem in my career was the stupid bosses, and in libraries they were often men. One especially hate-filled one finally got me in the end. He fired me at age 49, and I haven’t worked as a librarian since.

These days, when Mike and I discuss work, he always says he misses his job. He worked with some high-level engineers in areas like developments in solar inverter technology. He had to give up his career for health reasons. He says he misses working with cutting-edge technology. I wish he still could enjoy those daily challenges, but I do not miss my work as a librarian. I find that I was smarter than most of my bosses, and that didn’t work out well.

I LOVE doing research and writing. I LOVE being my own boss, although there have been times when I could be quite demanding. The Internet has given us many new freedoms and I love it all! Now I do what I want with my time and generally enjoy the process. I wish you all this future!

Save your dollars and perhaps someday you will be able to live where you want and spend your days doing whatever you choose!

laura-rasta-xmas-2012-croppedI’m a newcomer to rural southern Colorado.  After two years I decided to compile a short journal about the ups and downs of moving from a good-sized city to rural America to build a passive solar home in the foothills:

A Memoir of Retirement: From Suburbia to Solar in Southern Colorado

Please share this information with your friends if they are considering similar life changes. Feel free to contact me directly to discuss any of these challenges, and to order your own signed copies of any of my books! Cheers, Laura Lee  (email me: MidlifeCrisisQueen@gmail.com)

Millennials and Me (at 60!)

“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage”  –Anais Nin

I have been struck by an apparent trait of millennials lately. On the news they keep saying that millennials often choose experiences over buying products. They would rather take a trip than buy a new set of clothes.   Now that is something I can relate to…

I have always chosen an experience over buying something. Whether it be interesting friendships or trips to spectacular or exotic places, I was always up for an adventure. That’s  why I traveled quite a bit in my 20s, 30s, and 40s. And now that I’m 60, I’m so glad I did!

Red Rock canyons in Utah

I went on a number of week-long river trips in Utah and Colorado in my twenties while living in Salt Lake City. These were marvelous, relaxing and unique journeys into the rural American West.

And how can I forget that backpacking trip to Canyonlands in southern Utah at age 18, when a couple of my friends got lost, and the ranger took us on a helicopter ride over the area in search of them? How can my parents forget getting that call that I was lost, even though I hasn’t.

sunset BVIAnd then there was that crazy trip to Mayaguez, Puerto Rico to pick up a sailboat and sail it to the British Virgin Islands. Come to find out the boat was a piece of crap, and there was no way it was going to sail that far. So instead we spent a few days in Mayaguez living on the boat, sailed to San Juan, and then a friend and I flew over to Tortola for one of the best weeks of my life, enjoying pina coladas and sunsets on Cane Garden Bay!

Venice Canals

I discovered Venice on a rather ill-fated trip in the mid-1980s. I first landed in Paris to visit a friend. We traveled to Florence together, where I became quite ill with hepatitis and never left the hotel room! But then it was on to Venice. I was alone for most of my stay there, it was January, I was still sick, and yet I LOVED VENICE! I will never forget my long walks around Venice in the thick London fog, or the man next door at my cheap pension, practicing his opera piece over and over again. It was as authentic as it gets!

I have also spent over a year of my life in various countries in east Asia. Bangkok, Taipei, Hong Kong and China are familiar to me, with a million tales to tell about that fascinating part of our world.

Travel today is just not as stress-free as 30 or 40 years ago. Yes, there was the occasional hijacking back then, but in general it was cheaper, a lot easier, and much safer.

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Building in December 2015 in southern Colorado

Mike (who spent most of his 20s traveling the Pacific in the Navy) and I, don’t have any major urges to travel at present. A trip right now just sounds exhausting after our recent two year struggle to move south and build this amazing solar home in one beautiful part of the country. In fact, our new home still feels like a fantastic vacation home to us!

We’re both glad we took those spontaneous trips back when it was fun and adventurous, and we look forward to exploring rural regions of the American southwest in the future.

Don’t judge my story by the chapter you walked in on…

Revision of Dating Milestones for those 50+

I wrote this in 2016 and our marriage just keeps getting better!

Have you seen this old survey about dating milestones?

When should you first kiss? How about holding hands or meeting the parents? I love this stuff! They say kissing comes first and way before holding hands, and you should wait to meet the parents for at least six months! Five months before even mentioning the words “I love you.”

I’d like to propose the express version for those past age 50. Mike and I kissed on our first date, of course! After ten hours of talking non-stop, it was time to check out the chemistry. Few realize how important smell is in bonding with another. If things don’t smell right you’re sunk! Not to mention the general feel of getting up-close and personal.

News flash, we were head-over-heels in love almost immediately. Neither one of us had ever met another person we could relate to so easily!

So I met Mike’s dad within a week or so. He wasn’t the coolest dude I had ever met, but it was fine. He met my parents within three months. We took a road trip down to New Mexico and had a GREAT time together! Luckily he checked out with my parents.

Our wedding was also a bit of a rush job, partially because Mike’s dad was quite ill by then. We decided to get engaged in seven months and married in eight. I have to laugh at those brides on “Say YES to the Dress” who plan their weddings for a year or two. We had a couple weeks to organize it all, and it was still perfect in our eyes!

This year we will celebrate eleven years of marriage, and yes, our first impressions were correct. We still relate so well it scares us sometimes.

When it comes to falling in love and marriage at any age, I can highly recommend this great line from “When Harry Met Sally”

Laura and Mike Wedding Day 2005“When you finally meet the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, you want the rest of your life to begin as soon as possible!”